Apr 13, 2013

Selective Arguing Habit

I think it wasn't long after we started dating when he, my boyfriend (now husband), complained mentioned about how I seemed to always try to argue, about everything and anything that he said (which reminded me of Corrine Bailey Rae's "Like A Star", btw)

Those who know me well know that I don't like conflict. When someone says something that I don't agree on, often I just let it slide in silence, as if I don't hear it, or a low and short 'humm', as if I am in the middle of thinking about other thing. I do this quite a lot. I think I am just too lazy to get into any confrontation.

There are some exceptions, of course. One is when the subject is important for me. The other is when the person is important that I wish to keep him/her around for long. In the latter case, I think it is essentials for him/her to know me as my true self.

Even in the beginning of the relationship with my husband (then boyfriend), I could tell that I want and I will make this one works. So when he told me about my challenging, if not arguing, habit, I noticed that it was because he was already important to me and I wanted to keep him around for a very very long time, if he could accept me as who I truly was (and am), Fortunately, he did (and he does).

And exactly one year and 5 days ago, we had our first "argument" as husband and wife.



What did we argue about? Something frivolous that I can't recall.

Happy 1st anniversary! Love you to the moon and back and even more...

2 comments:

  1. Gak boleh Crut, jadi pelawaaaaan
    *eaaa, ngomong sama kaca
    *apa maksudnya kaca ya? Suami juga belum punya..
    *... (merenung)
    *... (lama2 meratap)

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  2. Hahaha Naad aah!
    Selamat satu tahun pernikahan Mamiiin. :)

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