I had a conversation about this with my girls. Of course, because we are girls so the context at that time was setting a rival in your relationship. Here are what I got:
a. When we're in a relationship we often, if not always, unconsciously pick someone to be the object of rivalry.
b. The objects could be anyone. 'Normal' choices are our partners' best friends, exes, co-workers, team mates. 'Less normal' choices: our partners' moms, sisters.
However, when the question was asked: "do you feel that this rival has the potential to steal away your significant other?", the answer is not always a "yes". It seems that we only look for the thrill of competing with other people. I know, it really sounds like we love drama. Frankly, I think we do.
Maybe it's not a sign of insecurity but only the need to fight for something. Though I must admit that I probably didn't do a good job at picking my samples. My girls are type A people. By nature they enjoy struggling for higher aims and making their lives harder than most people. Me, I am just trapped at the wrong place wrong time with these people.
Shortly, this is a non-random sampling.
So back to rivalry. Do you think we really have tendency to pick someone, anyone, to be our rivals?
Iya. Dulu. Eh apa sekarang masih ya? dan setuju.. bukan karena merasa insecure tapi karena i need drama. hahahaha. eh tapi kadang karena soal insecure juga.. dengan alasan yang tepat. ;p
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ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha. Siauuul.
@iyra: itulah mengapa sinetron laku. karena manusia butuh drama. ahahaha.
ReplyDelete@bat: kekekekek. kesepet bat? :))
As upsetting as it can be for a parent, conflict between siblings is very common..
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